09 Nov Three Habits To Avoid This Week To Feel Happier And More Confident
We all have habits that quietly drain our energy and keep us stuck. This week, try avoiding these three habits that quietly drain your energy and joy:
Complaining
It’s easy to slip into when things feel stressful or unfair. It can feel like a release but it’s rarely helpful. Complaining keeps us stuck in what’s wrong. This week, when you catch yourself about to complain, ask yourself: “What can I do about it?” or “What’s one thing I’m grateful for right now?” Shifting your focus, even slightly, helps new energy flow in.
(NB – It is completely okay to talk about how you feel, we all need to express frustration sometimes. The difference is where we stop. Talking things through helps us process, complaining with no focus on a solution keeps us stuck in a loop of what’s wrong and drains ourselves and others.)
Comparing
Comparison is an act of rejection– of yourself. Nothing stunts growth faster. When we measure ourselves against others, we forget to nurture our own path. Everyone’s timeline, pace and story are unique. Like plants, we all need different conditions to thrive. The key is to focus on our own path, create the conditions we need and allow ourselves to follow it. Comparing keeps us stuck in someone else’s story instead of fully inhabiting our own. Focusing on our values, growth and what makes us feel alive helps us find the best conditions to flourish.
Criticising
Whether it’s directed outward or inward, criticism narrows our mind. Criticising others breeds distance and negativity. Criticising ourselves erodes confidence and joy. This week, replace the urge to criticise with curiosity or compassion. Ask questions instead of judging. Approach yourself and others with interest, kindness and openness. This creates more space for growth and understanding in our lives.
Why it Matters
Complaining, comparing and criticising all stem from a common source: focusing on what’s “wrong” instead of noticing what’s right and what’s possible. Each one keeps us stuck in the past or projecting into the future. Letting them go creates mental space, emotional freedom and energy for more joy and authenticity in our lives.
A Simple Practice
Next time you catch yourself doing one of these three things, pause. Name it silently. Take a deep breath, refocus, and choose a small action that reflects curiosity, gratitude, or kindness instead. Over time, this practice rewires your attention, guiding you toward a life that feels lighter and clearer.