30 Nov Priorities and Boundaries: How to Protect Your Energy This December
December is a month full of competing demands – social events, family commitments, work deadlines, end of year pressure. It can leave very little room for our own needs or our own pace.
But December also offers something else. It offers connection, presence, warmth, rest and meaning.
This weekend, as I can already feel the busyness starting to build, I’ve been thinking about how I can make sure I don’t get swept up in the first list and end up missing – or only half-experiencing – the second.
So before the month gathers momentum, take a moment and ask yourself:
What do I actually want December to feel like?
What needs to be prioritised (and protected) to make that possible?
This month will only feel the way we want it to if we intentionally create space for the things that matter most. And often that means putting boundaries in place that support our priorities.
Here are some ways I’ve been considering to protect my energy, honour my priorities and move through December with clarity and calm.
Decide a December Intention
Pick one word or feeling (calm, connection, ease, joy, simplicity – whatever feels right for you). Let that guide every decision this month.
Choose your top 3 Priorities
What really matters and is important this month? Family? Rest? A project? Health? Choose three (not ten!)
Build your Month Around These Priorities
Before saying yes to anything, ask: “Does this support the December I want?”
Pause Before Committing
You don’t have to reply instantly. Give yourself a day before committing to plans – I like to call it the 24 hour pause.
Protect your Downtime
Rest isn’t optional – it’s a boundary. Block it in your calendar. Whether it’s a walk, a slow breakfast or five minutes of quiet, take time to anchor yourself daily.
Make Social Plans work for you
If you’re tired, suggest a quick coffee instead of a long night out. Connection doesn’t need to be draining.
Simplify Where you can
Buy fewer gifts. Make easier meals. Choose convenience without guilt. Your energy is more valuable than perfection.
Say no Without Apologising
A clear, warm “I can’t this time, but thank you for thinking of me” is enough. No justification needed.
Remember : Boundaries Allow joy, they don’t Block it
Every time you say no to what drains you, you’re opening up space for what nourishes you. This can help you to experience less of the pressure and demands of the season and instead lean into joy and connection, so experiencing more of the good stuff December has to offer.